18 Things I Wish I Would Have Known In 2018

2018 was possibly the worst year of my life for loads of reasons. Yes, I had a ton of good experiences overall but in the end, things just turned to shit!! So here are the 18 things I wish I would have known right off the bat at the beginning of the year.

  1. If someone doesn’t like you, don’t waste your energy trying to make them like you.
  2. Money is the root of all evil… SAVE SAVE SAVE!
  3. Sometimes the people who say they will never leave you, will leave you, and you have to learn to accept it even if it is really hard.
  4. Moving home isn’t a bad thing
  5. School can wait, your mental and physical well-being can’t
  6. Food is not the enemy, sometimes other things can make you gain weight too
  7. You don’t have to have found “the one” by 22
  8. Birthdays aren’t special, don’t stress
  9. Your best friend should always be there for you and if they give up on you, they weren’t your best friend after all.
  10. Do NOT change yourself for anyone but yourself
  11. Sometimes your coworkers will hate you and they will lie about you and hurt you. Always be the bigger person.
  12. Memories can hurt, but don’t get caught up in wishing the past was the present. You can’t change where you are.
  13. Not everyone is out to get you, but at the same time sometimes the people who say they’ll help you turn out to be the worst people in the end.
  14. Pets don’t live forever and sometimes you lose them way sooner than they were supposed to go. Cherish the time you have with your furry babies.
  15. People will be successful, you might not be. Don’t compare your life to others just because you’re on a different path and in a different season of life.
  16. The people who you think should be hurt by karma won’t be, they might never be. Realize that and move on. You can’t ruminate on how many different ways you could ruin their lives if you were karma. It’s a waste of your time.
  17. Sea glass hunting and milkshakes and a trip to Gooseberry Falls will always be worth your time.
  18. Don’t let your fear of the future let you make drastic decisions.

I hope even one of these points can hit home with one of you reading. I have a lot ahead of me this year and even though I’m really scared of everything, I’m also really excited about life again. I can’t wait to share more with you.

Sincerely, Amelia

P.S. I definitely purposefully scheduled this post to go up on the 18th. Look at all those 18’s haha!

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Seven Things I Learned During My First Semester of College

I’m finished with my first semester of college, or as my roommate says, “we’re 1/8 of the way through our bachelor’s degree.” I learned a lot over the past few months and I decided I wanted to share seven of those things with you.

1. SLEEP

I think the number one most important lesson I learned this semester was the importance of sleep. Back in high school, I was sleeping maybe six hours a night and I was getting sick constantly. I wasn’t taking very good care of myself and my immune system heavily reflected that. My roommates and I were all on pretty similar sleep schedules and actually on numerous occasions we encouraged each other to go to bed around 9 PM. I only ended up getting sick once all semester and I think I can attribute this to how much sleep I was getting.

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It’s really important to remember how important sleep is and how getting enough sleep each night is vital to our health and our well-being. I’ve learned my lesson from high school and from now on will try my hardest to make sure I’m getting at least 8 hours of sleep a night.

2. Treat yo self

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My favorite thing about Friday afternoons was that I would get back from my last class and I would stick a pop in the freezer and work on homework and watch Netflix and relax. It became a routine from the very start and I look forward to doing this again next semester. I cut back my pop drinking to only one can of soda a week and I’ve stuck by that (except on a few occasions where I went out to eat). I found that saving my one pop a week for Friday night was a special routine that I really liked.

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Getting to reward myself really kept my spirits up when classes, and life in general, got hard. It’s a lot more fun to look forward to something after all the work you’re doing instead of just doing the work.

3. The class you’re dreading could become your favorite.

I signed up to take my required communications class first semester as a way to “get it over with” because I hate public speaking so much. (Ironic because I want to go into ministry which requires a lot of public speaking). Anyways, I dreaded this class from day one, absolutely dreaded it. But here we are, weeks later, and I have to admit that class was my favorite of any of the ones I took last semester. I learned so much about myself and my classmates and came to really appreciate that class. My professor was amazing and not once did I feel too uncomfortable to perform a speech in front of the class.

I signed up to take my required communications class first semester as a way to “get it over with” because I hate public speaking so much. (Ironic because I want to go into ministry which requires a lot of public speaking). Anyways, I dreaded this class from day one, absolutely dreaded it. But here we are, weeks later, and I have to admit that class was my favorite of any of the ones I took last semester. I learned so much about myself and my classmates and came to really appreciate that class. My professor was amazing and not once did I feel too uncomfortable to perform a speech in front of the class.

The last speech we had to give was an informative speech and I chose to do mine on the topic of Deaf Culture and communication. For my introduction, I chose to do it all in sign and my professor was so excited about this idea. My favorite memory from that class was when I got up there and started signing. The looks on everyone’s faces were absolutely priceless and my professor was sitting in the back of the classroom laughing and I loved every minute of it.

I don’t think anyone would have guessed that my communications class would be my favorite of the semester and I’m honestly really surprised that this is the case too. I think we all should go into each class with an open mind and just appreciate each one for what it is. We aren’t going to like every class we take but we certainly aren’t going to hate everyone either. Sometimes things just surprise you.

4. PRIORITIZE THINGS!!!!

Do all assignments in order of importance/when they are due. And 100% don’t leave things until the last minute. This advice is plastered everywhere but I have to say that it is really important and should become a habit to all.

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On the topic of prioritizing things, I would also like to talk about scheduling yourself wisely. When choosing classes, remember to think about how the times will affect you and how everything will work together. If you have a job, try to consider what type of shifts you want to be working and whether or not those work with your schedule. Be sure to schedule yourself in a way that allows you to get important things done and still have time to relax and enjoy some quiet time.

5. The W-Curve is a real thing

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It’ll hit at some point. Trust me. Some day you’re going to wake up and all you’re going to want to do is pack your bags and leave.

Things get tough, friendships end, school gets hard, the days get short. Stuff starts to change and it begins to feel like life is flying by and you’re not ready for that to happen.

The W-Curve is real, it happens to everyone, and that’s okay. If you find that school isn’t really for you then make that decision, if you decide to stick it out, make that decision. Just remember that every decision you make is about making you happy and making sure that you do what is right for you.

6. Don’t be afraid.

Don’t be afraid to ask a question. Don’t be afraid to text that person. Don’t be afraid to go eat a meal by yourself. Don’t be afraid to be alone.

There’s not much else I have to say about this other than this is something I’m still working on.

7. Make healthy choices.

For my final piece of advice, I just want to say it like it is. Make healthy choices, don’t be stupid. ┬áTake care of yourself and know your limits. Personal hygiene is important, diet is important, sleep is important, school is important. Don’t sell yourself short and remember that you are your number one priority.

I hope you are all having a wonderful new year. I’ll talk to you soon.

Ten Things I Learned Before I Turned Nineteen

Happy International Left Hander’s Day!! And also happy birthday to me! Today I am officially nineteen and I decided to share some lessons with you that I’ve learned throughout the years.

1. Church is fun if you don’t make it a chore

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After getting confirmed at my church, neither youth group or regular Sunday morning services are required. We have no obligations and no more reason to go. I have always like going to church because I loved seeing my friends on Wednesday nights and when I could make it to church on Sunday morning I always enjoyed listening to the sermons. Once I had the freedom to choose if I even wanted to attend church anymore I found myself enjoying it more and looking forward to being there every week.

2. Volunteer

I can’t emphasize this one enough, volunteering is such a fulfilling experience no matter what you do. I loved being able to see any sort of difference I could make in someone’s life in just the short amount of time I was there to help work. I’ve done so many different volunteering projects over the years and each one has left me wanting to help out more.

3. Every sunset is worth taking a picture of.

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And for that matter everything is worth taking a picture of! You’re never going to experience something the way you are at that moment so why not document it. I know I have well over 100 sunset related pictures on my phone and camera, and to me they’re all special. Every picture is a memory.

4. Don’t lose your flash drives.

Just keep track of them, make sure you know where they are at all times or you will probably end up losing four years worth of school projects and pictures. Also, have copies of everything. (Or you might end up crying in the middle of art class.)

5. Giving presents to people is so much fun.

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I love picking out presents for people whether it’s their birthday, Christmas, or a “just because” present because I saw something and thought of them. It makes me happy to see that they like it and I love making other people happy too.

6. Red lipstick is awesome.

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I love wearing bright lipstick, it’s a great way to change up my day to day look and have fun. I have so many different colors but red has been my go-to color a lot lately. Lipstick looks great on everyone so don’t be afraid to wear it with confidence. Trust me, red lipstick is definitely something worth owning.

7. Your decisions matter most.

This was probably the biggest lesson I learned in the last year. I took an AP art class that required me to submit a portfolio at the end of the year. My art teacher essentially had no confidence in most of my work and she wasn’t shy about saying that to me either. By the time I was finished I had made my portfolio with very little of her help, choosing the pictures that I liked disregarding the criticism that she had told me. I ended up passing with the highest score you could get. Now I’m not saying that you should disregard anything that anyone tells you but what you choose to do is what matters in the end. You have the power to do what you want.

8. Disney is magical no matter how old you are.

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I went to Disney this past spring break for the first time ever. I was 18 years old and probably had more fun than most of the little kids there! I’ve been a fan of Disney my whole life and this was honestly a dream come true for me. It’s such a magical experience and I can’t wait to go back someday.

9. You don’t have to like drinking coffee black.

There are so many coffee snobs at my school who will make comments all the time about how they only drink black coffee. I for one am definitely not one of those people. I love coffee but I always add creamer to it because when it’s plain it’s way too bitter for me. Like yay you if you can drink it plain but that’s nothing special to talk about. Don’t judge people for how they drink their coffee, it has nothing to do with you. It’s just coffee.

10. Go to your favorite band’s concerts.

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Rend Collective is my favorite band and last September I got to see them live for the first time. I went to this concert with my friends Ryan and Ricky and I had such an amazing time. We stood really close to the stage and I just sang my heart out and loved every second of it. Then this spring I went to a Chris Tomlin concert with my youth group where Rend Collective played again (just as good the second time!). Going to concerts is so much fun, I love when the music is so loud that you can’t even hear anyone else so you can sing as loud as you want and just dance your heart out. (I didn’t really dance though, whoops.) If your favorite band ever comes to your city be sure to buy a ticket and go to the concert, you won’t regret it.

I had so much fun coming up with things to write for this post. I know it’s all over the place but these are the things that I’ve learned that I thought were worth sharing. What’s a random lesson you’ve learned over the years that has stuck with you?

Have a great day everyone!