There’s always this underlying look of pity when I tell people that I probably won’t be graduating in four years, and I have no idea what I want to do with my life yet.
I was on break at work the other day when I overheard two freshmen girls talking about how they couldn’t understand how anyone could possibly change their majors after beginning school. They were both set on what they imagined their futures to be that they thought it absolutely insane to hear of someone who had changed their major once, twice, or even five times. It made me sad to realize that there are still so many stereotypes regarding a “typical” college career.
It took me a while to really accept that there is more than one type of college path and it’s more than okay to have a non-traditional path. I myself am on that path, my boyfriend is as well.
My boyfriend, Ryan, has decided to pursue college after working on more career type things. He’s interested in politics and has chosen to get his foot in the door before focusing on his education. He’s comfortable with knowing that he has something (college) to fall back on if he needs it, and it’s great knowing that you can still expand your life in the future. I think it takes a lot of guts to be able to admit that the path you’re on isn’t “the one” and that you need to change it. Even more guts to be able to jump off the path onto a different one.
I’ve gone back and forth numerous times on whether or not education at this time is relevant to me. In the last few days I’ve come to realize that even though I’m really struggling with where I’m at, I need to stick it out and continue to work towards whatever it is that I want to work towards. I realize that I’m enjoying what I’m doing and life can just keep on trucking. Plans are just plans, they’re not set in stone unless you literally write them on a stone. We have no reason to do things that we don’t want to, or keep working on things that make us unhappy.
At this point in time, I highly doubt that I will be graduating in the cookie cutter four years of college. I’ll probably be spending at least an extra semester here, if not a whole year (though I really haven’t gone too in depth with all the classes I need to take and scheduling and stuff because my advisor isn’t that great of a help, although that’s another story). I could even be graduating on time, although I have no idea. I just know that I’m educating myself in topics that I’m actually interested in, pursuing a degree in both history and communications and minoring in art. All topics that I have come to learn that I loved and feel passionate about.
So I just want to say to the people that pity non-traditional students. Don’t. Not all of us are as happy to accept our educational fates but we have no reason to be pitied. We are all on different paths and that’s okay. Plans change and that’s okay.
And to the two freshmen girls that were “hating” on people that changed their majors. Good luck to you. I hope all your plans work out, and if they don’t I hope you find security in knowing that the future will happen and you’ll graduate. You just don’t have to have a set date.
Well I hope you all have a fantastic day and I’ll talk to you all soon.