Why it’s Okay to Change Your Plans

There’s always this underlying look of pity when I tell people that I probably won’t be graduating in four years, and I have no idea what I want to do with my life yet.

I was on break at work the other day when I overheard two freshmen girls talking about how they couldn’t understand how anyone could possibly change their majors after beginning school. They were both set on what they imagined their futures to be that they thought it absolutely insane to hear of someone who had changed their major once, twice, or even five times. It made me sad to realize that there are still so many stereotypes regarding a “typical” college career.

It took me a while to really accept that there is more than one type of college path and it’s more than okay to have a non-traditional path. I myself am on that path, my boyfriend is as well.

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My boyfriend, Ryan, has decided to pursue college after working on more career type things. He’s interested in politics and has chosen to get his foot in the door before focusing on his education. He’s comfortable with knowing that he has something (college) to fall back on if he needs it, and it’s great knowing that you can still expand your life in the future. I think it takes a lot of guts to be able to admit that the path you’re on isn’t “the one” and that you need to change it. Even more guts to be able to jump off the path onto a different one.

I’ve gone back and forth numerous times on whether or not education at this time is relevant to me. In the last few days I’ve come to realize that even though I’m really struggling with where I’m at, I need to stick it out and continue to work towards whatever it is that I want to work towards. I realize that I’m enjoying what I’m doing and life can just keep on trucking. Plans are just plans, they’re not set in stone unless you literally write them on a stone. We have no reason to do things that we don’t want to, or keep working on things that make us unhappy.

At this point in time, I highly doubt that I will be graduating in the cookie cutter four years of college. I’ll probably be spending at least an extra semester here, if not a whole year (though I really haven’t gone too in depth with all the classes I need to take and scheduling and stuff because my advisor isn’t that great of a help, although that’s another story). I could even be graduating on time, although I have no idea. I just know that I’m educating myself in topics that I’m actually interested in, pursuing a degree in both history and communications and minoring in art. All topics that I have come to learn that I loved and feel passionate about.

So I just want to say to the people that pity non-traditional students. Don’t. Not all of us are as happy to accept our educational fates but we have no reason to be pitied. We are all on different paths and that’s okay. Plans change and that’s okay.

And to the two freshmen girls that were “hating” on people that changed their majors. Good luck to you. I hope all your plans work out, and if they don’t I hope you find security in knowing that the future will happen and you’ll graduate. You just don’t have to have a set date.

Well I hope you all have a fantastic day and I’ll talk to you all soon.

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Major Issues

Okay, I just had to make this the title of the post because I thought it was so punny!

So last year, I ended up changing my major… TWICE.

I know that so many people (or at least those at CSS) say that most students will change their majors at least once before deciding on the right path for them. Now I definitely started out my college career with a completely different mindset. I was completely set on my major, felt in my heart that I could never change my mind and yet, here I am, one year later, on a completely different academic track than I was on last September.

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At the end of last semester I started to really question my choice of major. I was enjoying my religion class, I found the work to be interesting but then I stopped and thought, do I really think I could handle working full time in a church? Can I handle the tough stuff? Am I going to be okay with all that I might encounter? When I really and truthfully thought it all through, the answer to these question was, no. I love my church, and I love the community that I have with my fellow Christians but in the process of learning more about what it would take for me to be in the role I wanted to be in I realized that with my personality it really wasn’t the greatest choice for me.

So I did something I never thought I’d do. I made an appointment with Career Services (at the suggestion of my counselor). Now, if you are questioning your major in any way I could not suggest meeting with a Career Services advisor more. It honestly changed my life. I thought about my interests, took a career profiling quiz and met with the advisor. Fun side note, she couldn’t believe how much the quiz showed me as not wanting to work with people, she said she’d never seen someone lean that far in the “working alone” direction. Hahaha, socially anxious introvert personality really shined through there.

Anyways, this appointment helped me to realize that I didn’t have to have a clear pathway right away, I didn’t have to have a super specific career or major in mind as a freshman. Over the summer I definitely developed my interests more and did a lot of research regarding various careers that I’m interested in. As of right now I am planning on double majoring in History and Communications and minoring in Deaf Language and Culture. I’m interested in being a librarian, a museum tech or curator, or possibly a graphic designer.

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All in all, what this experience taught me is that you don’t have to have your life figured at 18, or 19, or even at 20! However, don’t be afraid to dive into your interests and develop yourself as a person. If you realize that college isn’t right for you, that’s great. If you realize that you need to completely reevaluate your major, go for it. If you decide that you want to curl up in a ball and forget about all responsibilities, I support you (just don’t do it for too long, I promise things will look up eventually, it just takes time and a lot of trial and error). If people look at you funny for saying you have no idea what you want to do with your life, who cares! You’re working your way towards your goals, be they big or small, and to know that you are happy and excited about your future is what matters.

If you have any questions about this post, feel free to shoot me a comment or an email. I’d love to chat.

Have a lovely day everyone.