Review: Whisper to Me

Whisper to Me by Nick Lake is about a girl who hears a voice and the 500 page apology email that she sends to this boy explaining why she is the way she is.

I was not a fan of this book at all. It’s over 500 pages long and I skimmed over half of it.

I give it 1/5 stars and do not recommend it to anyone.

I think the formatting of the book was really jumpy, I know it was supposed to mimic an email but to read it in book form was really confusing. I think it could have been improved if it were an actual back and forth email between Cassie and this boy instead of just one long email from Cassie trying to explain herself to this boy.

I didn’t get the whole gist of the relationship between Cassie and this boy but I was really not a fan of how it was written. I was really disappointed in the fact that the author portrayed Cassie as being “cured” when the boy was around. This is one of those YA tropes that I can’t stand! Guys are not the answer to mental health help.

Now if I was this boy, I would not be excited to read 500 pages of this story. There was a lot of this story that could have been cut out. A lot of details and side stories that I felt were unnecessary. The first 200 pages or so were decently written and I was interested in the story, but then it started to drag on and on and I got tired of reading the same things over and over again.

Overall, I think this book was poorly written and a poor representation of recovery from a mental illness. Lake doesn’t even properly label it a mental illness and Cassie takes her recovery into her own hands instead of consulting professionals. She hides what is going on with her and lies to multiple people about what she’s doing with her treatment.

Again, I don’t recommend this book at all.

Hope you all have a great Tuesday.

Sincerely,

Meagan

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Reread Review: Fangirl

Fangirl by Rainbow Rowell is probably my all time favorite standalone novel, tied with all of Morgan Matson’s books to be honest.

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The first time that I read Fangirl, I couldn’t believe how much I related to Cath and I think that’s why this book still means so much to me. I just reread this book a month ago for the first time since beginning college and I laughed at how similar Cath and I were in our first year.

Except Cath came out of the year a lot better than I did.

Here’s a video review that I made of the book:

Happy Tuesday everyone!
Sincerely,
Meagan

Discussion: You’re Going to Be Okay

I just finished reading You’re Going to Be Okay by Holley Gerth and I loved it! I took three pages of notes and I wanted to talk to you about how much I appreciated this book.

I’ve never been one to believe in the whole “just think positive” scheme of making yourself better and I think Holley did a wonderful job in balancing this way of thinking with actions. We’re pretty good at making things worse than they actually have to be but at the same time we also don’t have to wait for our circumstances to change to believe what’s true.

We are loved. We are overcomes. We are enough. We have purposes. And we are irreplaceable.

I liked that she talked about how our brains are muscles and with muscles comes flexibility but in order to make our muscles flexible we actually have to work with them. It just takes intentional change and obedience to the Spirit to learn to live in joy. We need to stop our negative thoughts in their tracks, drop them, and then roll with the situation. After that we should process and reflect and then pray. I’ve found in the past day or so as I’ve been using this way of thinking that it really works if you’re intentional with it.

What we really need to do is recognize the battles in our lives for what they are and then take one small step towards becoming out own allies instead of our own worst enemies. Honestly though, we are the best ally we can have and if we’re against us then how could we ever believe that God could be for us (at least this is my way of thinking). See, what is truly from God is not meant to weigh us down so if something is weighing you down pause and reflect and see where that negativity and pain is really coming from. Worry and fear come from believing a lie about who God is.

The last thing I want to talk about is that God dwells in us which means we have have “life to the full” wherever we go. Joy is a gift for us and we can always have it even if we aren’t happy all the time. We are climbers and we are not meant to settle so trust that whatever has been entrusted to you is what is best for this time. Worrying is an attempt to control what we can never control. Remember that with faith as little as a mustard seed you can move mountains.

I highly encourage this book for anyone who is struggling with a rough time right now, or just for everyday stressors. It’s a great way to process what is happening and see what God really intends for us.

I hope you’re all doing well.

Sincerely,

Meagan

Toxic Relationships in YA

This topic goes deeper than the idea that a guy can fix all of a girl’s problems (although this is a topic that I could chat about on a different day). It is about the fact that there are multiple books out there that now illustrate controlling, toxic relationships as healthy and good.

When I was younger, I would idolize these types of relationships. I thought they were what everyone should want. But then I grew up and I learned about abuse and feminism and how what I idolized was destroying people on a daily basis.

Here’s a really poignant video from Whitney (aka whittynovels) about the topic. I highly recommend that you watch it before continuing on reading my post.

I’m not going to go in depth with what I think about the examples that she discussed because I really hope that you all watched the video because I feel like she did a really good job at expressing this topic.
I know someone who was in a severely toxic relationship and they didn’t even know that they were in a relationship that was abusive because it reflected so many other relationships they had seen and read about. It is not okay or romantic to be abused. Angst is not romance. Threats of nonconsensual behavior is not okay. The creepy sleep watching scene from Twilight? You guessed it: NOT OKAY.
The media normalizes what we see. It desensitizes us from violence and misbehavior because of how much we see certain things. We are sold problematic media until we think that this is normal.
Instead, we need to normalize healthy relationships and independence. We need to protect young men and women and illustrate behavior that is not controlling, not abusive. We need to discuss problems in these “romantic” books and support authors that write stories that are healthy. We need to stand up for feminist works and highlight healthy behaviors or highlight negative behaviors in a negative way. We need to stop highlighting negative behaviors as positive.
I am done idealizing relationships that are unhealthy. I want to idealize equality in relationships and I hope that y’all are with me. Have a great weekend everyone.
Sincerely,
Meagan